The Nap-Time Reset

Not a Personality Change — Just Rest, Intentionally

Rest is not a reward.
It’s not something you earn after checking every box.
And it is definitely not something you should feel guilty about.

If there’s any guilt left over when a stay-at-home mom sits down, breathes, or pauses, it belongs at the feet of whoever is monitoring — because it doesn’t belong to us.

For a lot of women, especially Black women, rest has been quietly framed as laziness. If we’re not visibly doing something, we’re assumed to be doing nothing. That belief didn’t come from nowhere. It’s tied to a long history of Black women being expected to labor endlessly, without rest, without softness, without pause.

Layer hustle culture on top of that — the idea that productivity equals worth — and suddenly rest feels like a moral failure instead of basic care.

But rest is not the problem.
Burnout is.

What My Nap-Time Reset Actually Looks Like

Nap-time in my house isn’t a luxury spa moment. Most days, I’m still working — editing, recording, baking, building. But I’m intentional about carving out a small reset within that window.

For me, that looks like:

• a joint (a shorty, ya know one to walk the dog)

• and jazz — specifically bebop

• And food — you can’t forget the food

That reset isn’t about escaping my life. It’s about regulating my nervous system so I can stay present inside it.

I live with ADHD, anxiety, and constant overstimulation — kids, work, life all happening at once. Without intentional pauses, my brain doesn’t slow down enough to function clearly.

Rest, paired with intentional cannabis use, gives me just enough space to breathe.

Slowing Down Is How I Think Clearly

When my body slows down, my mind can finally do its job.

That’s when ideas start to connect — not because I’m forcing them, but because I’ve made room for them. It’s that same mental clarity you see in The Queen’s Gambit or The Good Doctor, where insight comes from quiet focus, not pressure.

This isn’t about being “high.”
It’s about being regulated.

Microdosing allows me to slow the noise enough to throw ideas at the wall, see what sticks, and move forward with intention instead of overwhelm.

Let’s Be Clear About Intentional Use

This conversation is for adults.

Intentional use is not constant use.
It’s not numbing out.
And it’s not performative wellness.

It’s about:

• timing

• dosage

• boundaries

• and self-awareness

It’s knowing when something supports you — and when it doesn’t.

Rest Is Not Laziness — It’s Strategy

We don’t need to justify rest with productivity.
We don’t need to earn it through exhaustion.
And we don’t need to carry guilt that was never ours to begin with.

Rest makes me a better mother.
A clearer thinker.
A more creative builder.

And that’s not an accident — that’s the point.